Monday, 3 February 2014

Pregnancy; Would I do it again!?

Today’s post is a Mummy based post and it’s all about pregnancy, labour and parenthood in general. We’re forever getting asked if we’d have another one so i’m going to give my answer and explanations as to why.
“Would you have another baby?!”
Well… to keep it short, not yet. 

Having a baby

So, to start off i’ll explain why going from the pregnancy to labour to being a Mom.
My pregnancy with Millie wasn’t the worst and I actually really enjoyed being pregnant, minus the lack of alcohol, the restrictions on food, the uncomfortableness pretty much every day, the lack of sleep etc etc. But I loved my bump and was so sad to see it go but obviously you get to the 36/37 week point and you’re willing your baby to make an appearance! I was never physically sick but felt nauseous on a daily basis in the first trimester and was really tired and lethargic all the time! I suffered with chronic heartburn too which, if you’ve never had heartburn - consider yourself lucky! So as for symptoms and pregnancy stuff, that was pretty much it. 
Then the labour. I posted an in depth story of my birth here but just to give you a quick idea here’s what happened… 

I was having contractions through the night but not really realising that they were contractions
7:30am - Adam goes to work and I get myself into the bath to try and ease the pain
8:30am - Still in the bath so call the midwife, explain what’s going on and she gave me the good old ‘paracetamol and bath’ antidote. I snapped telling her I was IN the bath and had already taken 2 paracetamol and they never did anything…
9:15am - I call Adam to tell him i’m having contractions and that he needs to come home
9:30-12:30 - I waded it out at home doing anything possible to sit through the contractions having to wait until they were coming every 5 minutes. As soon as they were 5 minutes apart we headed to the hospital! All I can remember from that morning is watching Made in Chelsea and kneeling on the settee trying to cope…
1:30pm - Arrived at the hospital after being stuck in traffic for 45 minutes, was checked & was only 1cm dilated. Luckily, they let us stay because of the traffic but I was on the ward then until 8:15pm! 
8:30pm - 4cm dilated so moved up to delivery thinking we’d be meeting baby soon…
7am - Still in delivery, still no baby & contractions had slowed. I had to be checked so they knew baby’s position, they took some blood from her head too to check the oxygen levels and then realised that she hadn’t dropped down enough. She wasn’t coming out naturally! I tried pushing but with an epidural, I couldn’t feel anything and I had no ‘urge’ to push!

From this point on it’s all a blur really, everything happened so fast but they took me to theatre within 45 minutes of doing the final checks and tried a ventouse but it ended up with an emergency c-section. Something that I really never wanted! 

So as you can see from that brief explanation, labour wasn’t the smoothest or shortest of times and this is one of the main contributors to not wanting another baby, just yet. 
Another thing and probably the main point from them all is the fact that ITS HARD WORK BEING A MOM! We had a rough first 3 months with Millie. She wouldn’t sleep in the day, she developed colic and we just really struggled with sleep and feeding etc. We were knackered to put it straight! I see babies that fall asleep on their play mats or highchairs or bouncers and I envy them! Millie NEVER fell asleep anywhere other than on us and then it was a risk putting her into her moses basket because she’d wake up. 

It’s so hard to explain in what way it’s handwork but if you’re a Mom, you’ll understand. If you’re not, consider yourself lucky! I would love for Millie to have a baby brother or sister but no time soon. I mean, not for at least 5 or 6 years. Imagine going through all of that ^ but adding in another little person! No. Thank. You. Adam feels the same if not stronger on the ‘no’ rather than ‘not yet’. 

Everyone’s views are different and that’s just mine so tell me, have you just had a baby? Do you want another one!?