Friday, 9 August 2013

I do... Should you? Do you?!

Everyone seems to be having babies, getting engaged, getting married... What's going on!? 

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As you all know (and if you don't then you should by now!) I had a baby 3 months ago... It wasn't planned at all but I wouldn't change it for the world now. But with my family (well... My Grandma) being very religious, one of the first things she said when I told her I was pregnant was 'So has he asked you to marry him yet?!' The answer was and still is no but I honestly don't feel like there is any rush to get married.

A lot of people may think that the 'proper' way to do things is to move in, get engaged, get married, have a baby... But this is the 21st century and things change! It's not always convenient to do them in that order and sometimes, it doesn't always work out well in that order either...

Me and Adam have been together for 2 years nearly, we were seeing each other for almost a year prior to that too so we know each other pretty well. We moved in together officially back in September last year after we found out I was pregnant and couldn't go back to uni. I did stay with him through the summer though thinking that it would only be for the summer... Little did we know it would be for the rest of our lives! Or will it? 

I have no doubts in my mind that we will stay together 'forever' now that we have Millie but I am frequently being asked 'Are you getting married?' 'Are you engaged yet?' And the honest answer is... I don't know!! I would LOVE to get married, don't get me wrong, but now we have Millie, I don't feel like we are in any rush to get married as she is pretty much all the security we need to know that neither of us are going anywhere. 

When people get engaged just for the sake of getting engaged, it annoys the hell out of both me and Adam. We don't see the point in having an engagement just to throw a party for other people or to show off a ring, when we get engaged, we hope to plan a wedding and 2-3 years later actually GET MARRIED! Not flaunt 'Emma and Adam got engaged' statuses all over Facebook and throw engagement parties for our friends to get hammered at. There's no point in it, is there!? I know people that have been engaged for a good few years and not even looked at a wedding venue or talked about a date and I just don't see the point. If you aren't planning on getting wed, why get engaged!? 

I believe that if you truly love someone, there is no rush to get married and that you should do it when the time is right. After all, it's not cheap to do and if you want to do it properly, it takes time and a hell of a lot of money! I just know that i'd like to be in a house before we decide to get married, whether that be a rented house or we buy our own, I don't mind but I want the stability of having a family home, somewhere we can bring Millie up before a ring. She will always be there and I want to ensure she has the best childhood she can rather than worrying about what size diamond I can find to fit my finger! 

Don't get me wrong, when the time comes I will say yes and I will be SO happy, but I won't be saying yes just to prove something, i'll be saying it because I want to be planning the rest of my life with Adam.

Do you know anyone that has been 'engaged' for years and hasn't tied the knot yet?! What do you believe about Marriage?!