Monday, 8 April 2013

Pregnancy...

There are certain things people instantly think of not being able to do when you're pregnant, drinking is the obvious one. But there are actually so many things I miss about 'not' being pregnant and as much as I can't wait to meet our little girl, I can't wait to get my body back and start doing things I enjoy again!

When we found out it was a HUGE shock and the things I wouldn't be able to do were the last thing on my mind. We found out I was pregnant 4 days before I was due to move back to London to start my 2nd year of university, so timing wasn't perfect. Me and Adam had also only been together just under a year and although we love each other and I was staying with him at weekends when I was back home, it was the last thing we thought would be happening. 

A few weeks after getting our head around things, quitting leaving uni and moving in together permanently, things actually started to look up. It was still a massive change to both our lives but I was starting to look forward to it. 37 weeks on and I am still super excited and we're both so anxious to meet our Daughter! 

Along with the excitement and the thrill of being pregnant, there are obviously down sides to it too... The growing bump is one (although I quite like my bump) it effects what you wear and how you look. The first 3 months are hell, feeling sick (or being sick - luckily I wasn't actually sick) constantly, being tired, feeling and looking like shit everyday... It really gets you down. After the first 3 months though, things do seem to pick up a bit. You get your energy back and start to develop the 'glow'... Of course, everyone is different, this is just my outlook on it all. 

There are things I miss that I wouldn't of even thought of...

Sleeping on my front - obviously, a bump kinda makes this one difficult so spooning a pillow is the only way i've been able to sleep lately.
Lying on the sofa - again, bump stops this from happening and I get stuck if I lie down in a weird way for too long!
Eating my dinner off my lap - I can still do this but heartburn attacks because i'm not in the best position to eat so eating at the table is a lot better! 
Being able to snuggle Adam in bed - again, because of bump, I can't even lie and snuggle my boyfriend in bed because I have to have a pillow to prop my bump up! 
Pate on toast - this is an odd one but there are certain foods you aren't meant to eat and Pate is one... But at christmas and easter, my aunty buys some homemade pate and because of baby, this year i've had to miss out :( 
Being able to put my own shoes on - i'm getting to a point now that I can't get certain shoes on because I can't bend down to do the laces or put my foot into them!
Walking around for longer than an hour without waddling or needing to sit down - this has only happened recently but I get SO TIRED so quick now! 
Going shopping without feeling depressed - i've got to the point now that nothing 'normal' fits and I feel so fat and frumpy, boo! 
Working - although it's impossible for me to work now because of how far gone I am, because of the timing of us finding out I was pregnant, I had to quit uni with no job to come out to and because I worked since I was 16, sitting doing nothing for 3 months sent me crazy! I have another 8/9 months to go before I can start looking for a job though, so i'm going to enjoy the time off with my little girl while I can!
Hot baths - you can't have a bath that's too hot because it can raise your's and baby's BP and HR which isn't good - so luke warm baths are all I can have right now... boring!
Maintaining my 'lady garden' - I know you're all thinking it because it was the first thing I asked my best friend about when I found out I was pregnant... But I miss being able to see my own foof! Shaving is SUCH A CHORE that I actually asked Adam to do it for me. Gotta be done i'm afraid.
And last but not least (sorry for the crudeness) Spontaneous sex - this is just something that can't happen. I lost my sex drive BIG TIME during the start / middle of my pregnancy, it made an appearance again for a few weeks but it's gone again. Getting comfortable in bed or on the sofa is effort, let alone being pounded. 

Hopefully you get the idea of the kind of things you can't do when you're pregnant and i'm not trying to be a walking, talking advert for contraception, but there are so many things that you don't think of until you're pregnant that would make you think twice if you were planning on having a baby! 

With only 3 weeks left to go, I know that all of these things will be back in my life sooner or later but for 9 months, you don't half miss the little things in life!



What did you miss most when you were pregnant?!

18 comments :

  1. I missed Pate on toast too! and Rollercoasters! Strange thing to miss but we always go to Thorpe Park or ALton towers and I couldn't so I'm SO making up for it this year! I know everyone will have said this to you but the first few weeks the baby is here will wizz by and before you know it they're a proper little person, so without being too cliche 'cherish every moment'

    x

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    1. Oh yeah! Although the time i fell pregnant only gave us a month left of theme parks anyway so we haven't really missed out on that one - we plan to go to Thorpe Park this summer for a day out though so hopefully i'll get my share of adrenaline there!

      xx

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  2. I didnt stop doing anything, I worked up ubtil I dropped and enjoyed all my nornal things

    Honestly, some things are made to seem worse then they are, everythings ok in moderation!!

    Your going to love every minute sweetie, you're doing the most amazing thing ever by growing a baby inside you, but don't forget about enjoying it all xx

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    1. Yeah, i know but these things are impossible to do - even if i wanted to. I cant physically do most of them so i dont know how you worked for so long!!

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  3. Aww I know how you feel! lol. I so missed being able to lay down and get comfortable - its nigh on impossible to be comfortable with a massive baby bump!

    I also had to have assistance from the boyf with shaving and putting on shoes/cutting toenails!! So embarassing!

    The last few weeks will go so quickly though, and even though you don't think it - you'll probably miss being pregnant! I HATED pregnancy and even I miss it a bit now lol - its nice having the baby to yourself when its inside you, once they're out its hard to get 5 minutes alone with them lol.

    Hayley
    Sparkles &

    Stretchmarks

    xxx

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    1. Yeah i know i'll miss the bump once its gone but for now its really starting to annoy me and i just want her out now so i can start getting my body back to normal! I feel like the last few days have gone so slow though but only 2 weeks left so not long!

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  4. This is such a good post!I too found out unexpectedly and it's amazing how quickly thing change.I find its really noticeable how much socialising revolves around alcohol!xxx

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    1. YES! Oh my god, I completely agree. I haven't seen many of my 'best friends' since I fell pregnant because their only means of socialising is going out and getting drunk because many of them are still young or don't live with their bf's so have a lot more time to do things they want. Its a shame but it definitely puts into perspective who your friends are!!

      xx

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  5. Thank goodness im 16 and not planning on getting pregnant! X

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  6. I can understand the shock, my lil monster was planned and i was still really shocked. Now that i'm on the other side there's things i miss about being pregnant but i still do remember things i missed when i was pregnant. I think the main one would have to of been being normal (by that i mean not feeling faint 24/7) every time i walked in a warm room i would nearly pass out. Like you being able to get comfy and snuggle my chap, i couldn't use a pillow though i had to use a teddy bear haha. I also missed being able to eat normally and i understand about the lady garden x

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    1. Haha a teddy!? Yeah we've had a pillow dividing the bed since about 3 months and i cant wait till i can wrap my legs around him and snuggle him again properly! I miss it soooo much :(

      xx

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  7. Oh my God 'maintaining my lady garden' - I just spat out my tea! Hilarious!!
    I just love how open and honest this post is. Loved it :)

    www.sarah-nunn.blogspot.co.uk

    xx

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    1. Haha, well - its true! You forget about that sort of stuff and its something we'd all have a problem with too!!

      xx

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  8. This is all very familiar! Haha. For my return from hospital, I made sure the fridge had these three things in it: paté, blue cheese, and champagne.

    I was gonna say I was looking forward to not being stared at in public as if I was an escaped zoo animal, but that continues after the baby's born! It's just the baby they're gawping at instead! ;)

    http://goodbrooking.blogspot.com

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    1. My dad has told me he's bringing me toast and pate to the hospital once she's born - bless him! And I plan to have a large glass of Red wine too! I miss indulging in fancy foods ;)

      xx

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    2. Oh mate, you've just reminded me that the tea & toast they bring you in hospital after you've had a little bit of bonding time is divine. It's like nectar. People told me but I didn't believe them. IT'S TRUE! You will love it. xx

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  9. Hahaha this post reminds me of the chat we were all having in Nandos and Sophia's question! xo

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  10. getting to sleep on your belly for the first time again feels amazing lol x

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